Joyce is a fifty year old woman who has been a previous client. She has been working on self esteem issues and an estranged relationship with her mother. For many years her mother has reinforced constantly that she is unable to achieve anything worthwhile with her life or relationships. This was related as ‘I told you so attitude’ after a partnership break up.
We have been working with the essences and there has been a gradual improvement over time and she has been able to recognise that the break-up was the best thing for her wellbeing. Mother is still critical of her though Joyce she feels it does not affect her as much and she doesn’t need to defend herself to her mother like she used to.
Before Christmas the family had decided to have a large gathering this year and Joyce was not going to go, then decided that if she started some essences before hand that maybe she could turn up and if the situation was difficult she would leave. This was a very brave move on her part, I have not heard her say that she would walk away from an unacceptable situation, I reminded her that she had been able to do it with her partner, even though it had been difficult, she had gradually moved forward with her life.
So we made up a mix with Acacia for her anxieties, Black Nightshade for the mother child conflict and her poor image of herself, Bleeding Heart for her closed heart attitude towards her mother, Cassia for clarity and self healing, and Dandelion to keep her grounded and centred. We also made another bottle of just Dandelion that she wanted to keep in her pocket, a bit like a security blanket.
Today I listened to a woman tell me that she had been able to see her mother differently for the first time and that she felt sorry for her and how shallow she was and had even noticed that her mother runs other people down the same way. Bravo!
The two days with the family worked out reasonably well in the regard that she managed to stay and on a couple of occasions when Joyce went for a walk, to take Dandelion and calm down, one of her nieces went walking with her and said she was glad to be able to get away for awhile ‘as the atmosphere gets so tense’ around her Aunty.
Joyce’s niece has also been introduced to Dandelion and has ordered one for herself. ‘It is the greatest thing since sliced bread’ was her comment.
Joyce has also had reinforcement that other people feel the same way, I can see an improvement in the way she talks about the weekend and she now thinks walking away is no big deal if she doesn’t want to be there, regardless of what her mother thinks.
All in all this has been the biggest step in her personal growth for a long time. Another positive comment she said a couple of times was it was nice to find out it wasn’t just her and that she was so glad to get home to her Unit for peace and quiet – loneliness has been a big issue previously. I feel that she is definitely more comfortable with herself and improved self image.