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Mother’s Day is a day set aside to honour and express gratitude for the most important relationship we will ever have as human beings. It is the one that nourished and nurtured our footing here on earth, providing us with the wherewithal to take up the journey on our own behalf, as we grew into the capacity to self-sustain. The mother is the teacher of the heart.

Nature has built into the mother-child relationship an abundance of evolutionary strategies that serve both in their best expression. Motherhood for women can be likened to the fruiting of their femininity and to ensure the process is repeated from generation to generation, it comes with built-in life-enhancing benefits.

Dramatic and profound physical, emotional, and mental changes occur in a woman’s being due to hormonally mediated changes that occur during pregnancy birthing and in the post-natal phases. These changes have been demonstrated to enhance a woman’s wellbeing provided that she has enjoyed a healthy, stress-free passage from Maiden to Mother. Of course, if the opposite occurs, such as the pregnancy, birthing and early parenting is fraught with trauma, stress or deprivation, then the reproductive process can deplete a woman’s health in the long term, along with impairment of the child’s developmental progress.

As far as the mother’s health and well-being is concerned, in Traditional Chinese Medicine, a natural health system that enjoys remarkable success in treating infertility and reproductive issues, the understanding is that if a woman is healthy going into a pregnancy and remains so for the duration, birthing and early parenting phase, then she will come out of this major life transition with better health than when she went in. The reverse also applies.

So, aware mothering benefits a woman, of that there is no doubt. But it is not just about the mother – it is about the quality of the fledgling human beings that mothers bring into the world. We do not own our children – they belong to themselves, and it is the role of the mother to nurture her child to her best and highest expression as a human being – and women are biologically programmed to do this.

For the offspring, healthy, balanced, aware mothering sets the tone for the entirety of that child’s life on all three levels, physical, emotional and mental. There is plenty of documented evidence to support this statement. And the most compelling research clearly shows that the closely bonded connected presence of the mother during early formative years creates a more balanced and functional human being – a human being whose consciousness is centred in the heart.

We learn how to nurture ourselves from our mother. The way we were nourished determines the value and self-worth we grant to ourselves, including the priority we place on our health and wellbeing on a day-to-day basis. Do we take care to feed ourselves with nourishing and vital foods, or do we trash our bodies with junk food? Do we grant ourselves relaxation and rest to restore and restock or are we so stretched that we are digging an early grave for ourselves through the chronic degeneration of our bodily systems. Do we establish healthy and life-enhancing habits that ensure that our body and soul is functioning at its optimum? Or do we continue to abuse our bodies with excess, because we never feel satisfied or that we have had enough?? It is the quality of mothering that tips the balance either way. If our mothering was less than adequate, that is no reason to pass the baton of dysfunction to our offspring, especially with the information and assistance available in today’s world.

In reality however, ours is a motherless society. Mainstream thinking pays lip service to the notion of ‘Motherhood’, and really, traditional mothering, as nature intended it to be, is being cut out of the picture in many instances. That is, unless the woman is prepared to believe in herself and her innate biologically designed strength and wisdom to create, birth and raise a healthy child. When she has this belief she can enrol help, if needs be, to achieve her dream. Without it, the reproduction merry-go-round has become a goldmine that plays on women’s fears.

Natural fertility is now marketed as an unattainable dream for many while IVF is promoted as the norm if a couple has been unable to conceive for twelve months. Natural birthing has been hi-jacked to become a medical condition, the message swallowed by many woman, when they are told that it is ‘too hard’ to birth without medical assistance, which more and more includes cutting the baby out of the womb.

And, in an increasing number of cases, babies as young as three months are being abandoned into day-care centres, devoid of the close interconnected one-on-one bonding that human babies need to grow to their best expression as adults, often because of peer pressure – a recent Careforkids survey found that 40% of non-working mums feel stigmatized for staying at home.

Studies show that there is strong evidence that the first two years is incredibly important for attachment. And yet, according to an Australian Institute of Family Studies report more than one in ten women are back in work before their babies are three months old while 44 percent wait until the baby turns twelve months before returning to paid employment.

Honouring motherhood is not about lip service to a notion that makes us feel all warm and fuzzy inside, but it is about truly recognizing that we have to shape our society to support and uphold the role of the mother, not for the sake of the mother, but for the future generations that are the adults of tomorrow. The harder we make it for natural mothering to be upheld and practiced, the more dysfunctional the human beings of the future will be.

Interestingly, the Gillard government has just announced a crack-down on teen mothers asserting that they need to have their noses to the grind-stone again by the time their baby is six months old. The intention behind this proposed budget cut reveals a government that has lost track of what it is that creates a truly great society – how we care for and nourish our young. To read further commentary on this issue please click here to read my last blog post on the subject.

 

 

Wild Iris

 

 

 

 

 

Dietes iridioides 

 

 

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Your Healing Challenges

  • For fear of childbirth.
  • For loathing of the menstrual cycle.
  • For fear of not being able to conceive naturally.
  • For lack of confidence as a mother.
  • For unhappy, competitive, corporate career women.

Your Healing Outcomes

  • Grants confidence in being a woman.
  • Brings an acceptance of natural female bodily functions.
  • Supports natural conception strategies.
  • Enhances and supports the experience of mothering.
  • Assists women to express their feminine nature in the workplace.

Description

Dietes iridioides is an evergreen, rhizomatous perennial.

The flowers usually last only for a day, but new buds open over a long period in spring and early summer.

Iris-like flowers are white, with central yellow marks that change to a deep brown towards the centre. They have six snowy white petals with purple feathery stamens rising from the centre.

They have strong sword-like leaves, which form large and attractive clumps.

Doctrine of Signatures

The small, mostly white flowers have feathery lavender stamens that look like three purple feathery antennae stretching up into the air to pick up any transmission that is floating through the ethers. They have deep gold central markings on the petals that look like a pathway with golden stepping-stones leading you into the centre of the flower.

The markings change to rich brown, having the appearance of code symbols, stamped onto the white petal in a distinct pattern. They look like hieroglyphics, a message imprinted onto parchment waiting to be deciphered by the person prepared to look close enough in contemplation.

They re-flower from the previous year’s flower stems as if they are carrying the baton of wisdom through from one generation to the next.

The trinity is repeated both in the shape and the pattern: a purple trinity in the centre standing up as if to be seen, a gold trinity drawing the contemplative person into the centre and a morse code trinity imprinted on the petal with a cryptic message. The three are set against a background of six pure white petals, six representing domestic peace and harmony.

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For further discussion and case studies on Wild Iris Healing Essence, please purchase the book, Spirit of Woman Australian Wild Flower Essences 

 

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Verbena

 

 

 

 

 

Verbena rigida

 

 

Your Healing Challenge

  • For despondency at having to ‘go it alone’.
  • For timidity, shyness or inadequacy in connecting with others.
  • For lack of cooperation, loner attitude, 'superwoman mentality'.
  • For the emotional stress of being a carer or volunteer.
  • For feelings of isolation and despair as a lone mother.
  • For feelings of loneliness and neediness in the aged.
  • For doom and gloom about ‘not having enough’ to fulfill the needs of the family.
  • For women feeling out of touch with their spirituality.
  • For men threatened by the emerging feminine energy of the 2000’s.

Your Healing Outcomes

  • For women's spirituality – encourages thinking globally, acting locally.
  • Promotes cooperation and facilitates group mentality.
  • It promotes networking.
  • Assists women to reach out for help.
  • Promotes confidence in child-care for your child and for yourself.
  • Galvanises women to take an interest in helping to save the environment
  • Assists men to feel comfortable with women, and with women’s energy.

Description

Two hundred and more species are recognized in this large group of perennials, most of them easy to grow and suitable for warm, dry climates.

Verbena rigida is used as a perennial rockery plant. Most verbenas have a pleasant spicy fragrance.

The leaves of the verbena are typically thin, lance-shaped leaves in medium green. The fine cut foliage is attractive and combines well with other plants.

Verbena tends to have a loose, sprawling growth habit. The flowers are five-petaled and very tiny individually; however, they grow in beautiful clusters or domed heads held above the foliage.

Doctrine of Signatures:

These little flowers grow in trident shape that looks like the symbol of Neptune, the God of the sea. Women’s energy is like the ocean, undulating and rhythmic with waves on the surface that appear to be separate. But at the depths of the ocean, all is connected and still, sustaining many strange and beautiful life forms, adapted specifically to life in the deep. It is like the inner landscape of a woman whose dream world sustains her and gives substance to her creative life at the surface.

The flowers grow in groups of three with flowering heads made up of many tiny magenta-coloured flowerlets, creating a sphere. Magenta is the colour of the extra chakra or energy centre located at the throat, which opens to information coming from higher dimension realities. The appearance of the flowers in clusters suggests the connected way that women relate to one another with their innate ability to network and co-operate, in contributing towards the greater good of society.

As they mature, the flowering heads elongate, giving the appearance of a pharaoh's head, as if each successive flowering has accumulated wisdom. Women’s life phases are designed cleverly by Nature to ensure that the older they become, the wiser they are. With their innate propensity to pass their accumulated wisdom on (the Wise Woman phase), they support and sustain their gender, and future generations of children benefit.

 

Annie Meredith's Australian Wild Flower Essences Verbena Healing EssenceAnnie Meredith's Australian Wild Flower Essences Verbena Healing Essence

  For further discussion and case studies on Verbena Healing Essence, please purchase the book, Spirit of Woman Australian Wild Flower Essences Annie Meredith's Spirit of WOman Australian Wild Flower Essences