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What does it mean to be woman?

 

The question itself seems simple enough, yet it is one to which I constantly return.  At times I am filled with gusto and bravado – ready to take on the world and fulfill my aspirations, yet at others, I fall into a heap and feel paralyzed by fear and insecurity.  I will return to this unfolding drama.  For now I wish to invite you all on a journey.

This is my first regular blog installment. In my introductory blog post, which you can read by clicking here,  I promised to share honestly and openly with you my thoughts, experiences, feelings, and processes.    It’s confronting for me, but I hope to humour you, challenge you, befriend you and share with you my processes in becoming a Wise Woman.

I speak confidently of becoming a Wise Woman, as the myriad of experiences that have interwoven themselves in my life  (and still continue to do so) are designed, I believe, to lead me to that sacred and well earned place.  Having said that, I am sure I have quite a distance to go yet!

I truly look forward to sharing this journey with you all. I would love your contributions, either when you feel a connection, or if you have a topic that interests you that you would like to have discussed.

As women, it is often difficult to share our fears achievements or disappointments (particularly around parenting) however I would like to challenge us all to take this journey.  This is a forum of NO JUDGEMENT!  In truth, I believe discussion is the first step in moving towards resolution of issues.   As with all things, it starts with the self and often ends up rippling through to the Community.

It appears to me that the question of “What it means to be a woman” is one we all ask at some point in our lives.

I grew up in a family with three sisters and no brothers. My father was the only male and often quipped about the ‘unfairness’ of existing in an all female environment.  Yet he (and my mother) both ruled with, what seemed to me at the time,  iron fists.  We were the quintessential children who ‘were seen and not heard’, particularly, in public where the appearance of  ‘a happy, harmonious and well-disciplined family unit’ was critical.

On the inside, I was far from happy.  With my ‘wings’ consistently clipped, it felt a struggle to be ‘like my sisters’ who appeared to be happy honing their ‘domestic’ skills.  I simply wanted freedom – yet I was desperately looking for who I really was………… and to be loved and accepted for that.

Consequently, I learnt to walk the tightrope between both worlds, the end result of which is:  I’m resilient and forthright, I enjoy challenges and I am driven (often to the point of self destruction).  I have finally conquered domesticity.  Which simply means that I accept it in my life and at times enjoy it!

But I’m also fearful. Of what, I ask myself?  Of my authentic self, I answer!

After a week of taking ‘Daddy’s Girl’, and a full weekend of being with friends sharing our personal lives, I am increasingly conscious of the unspoken fears that hold many women back from being their true and authentic selves.  In the words of Frances Moore Lappe “I’ve grown certain that the root of all fear is that we’ve been forced to deny who we are”.

My journey this week has awoken me to remember to be authentic to myself.  Daddy’s Girl has helped me to once again come out behind the protective curtain of “father issues” where I hide and avoid nurturing my authentic self.

Women change constantly!  Yet, somehow we continually expect that our friends, sisters, mothers, teachers, etc. will remain consistent and the same.  The Wise Woman emerges from her experiences and each one of those experiences changes her perceptions, understandings, emotions and life.

Our authentic selves need room to grow – like any beautiful flower!  As women, we must nurture each other, provide nutrients and sustenance to our fellow being-humans (human-beings) to ensure each and every one of us is provided every opportunity to reach full bloom!

For me, that is the essence of being a WOMAN!

Feel free to comment – in fact, I would love it if you did!!

It stimulates discussion and, also, your comment may be very well what someone else was thinking but was too timid to speak out!

Have a great week and please look out for my next blog post.

 

Lacebark

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Brachychiton discolor

 

Healing Challenges

  • Menopausal symptoms.
  • Feeling unattractive and sexually undesirable.
  • For depression and ‘empty nest syndrome’.
  • Fear of aging.
  • Feelings of uselessness and having passed the use-by date.
  • For ‘retired husband syndrome’.
  • For hearing difficulties.

Healing Outcomes

  • Comfortable with being the Crone – the Wise Woman.
  • Energetically eases menopausal symptoms.
  • Smoothes the transition from Mother to Wise Woman
  • Encourages joy in sexuality, in older women.
  • For the freedom to dance again.
  • For ease in passing on wisdom.
  • Grants the confidence to express one’s creativity.
  • Assists in hearing the inner voice of wisdom.

Description

A large deciduous tree, it belongs to the Brachychiton family, which consists of the most noble and spectacular flowering trees native to the lush rainforests of the eastern coast. The family includes the dramatic Illawarra Flame Tree, which can grow to a height of 30 metres in its natural habitat, and provides a stunning display of red flowers following a wet summer. Queensland Lacebark is a giant deciduous tree of a spreading habit growing anywhere from six metres to twenty metres high. It has palmately lobed leaves, dark green above and grey, which are softly textured and have the shape of a hand reaching out to give assistance.

The flowers are dull pink and covered with a brownish fur on the outside. Larger than the red flowers of the Illawarra Flame Tree, they are similarly cup-shaped and have five petals with a central stamen crowned on top.

A rainforest tree, slow in the early stages of growth, Lacebark flowers after fourteen years. By this time, the flowers are in a lofty and exalted position and able to oversee the forest floor below.

Doctrine of Signatures

These gracious trees don’t flower until they are fourteen years old — as if they take their time maturing, but when they do, they have acquired wisdom.

The leaves reach out as if to offer assistance to those who would listen.

The flower has many indicators of the healing qualities of this lovely essence. The crown on the top of the stamen resembles a brain. It also looks curiously like an old lady's hairdo. It gives the impression that this flower carries the ‘wisdom of age.’ In Traditional Chinese Medicine, the brain is governed by the kidneys, which in turn determine the seven-year cycles of a woman and the ageing process.

The base of the stamen and the inner flower looks like the inside of the ear with tiny hairs that rise up from rosy pink flesh. It seems to be indicating that this flower assists with hearing in the aged or hearing the wisdom that age has to pass on.

The colour around the base of the stamen is brownish, like dried-up blood. Towards the top of the cup, the colour changes to lolly pink. The outside rim of the cup splits into five peaks. The outer surface of the cup is brownish orange and highly textured with fine powdery hairs like soft old lady's skin.

Where the inner surface of the cup meets the outer surface — the pink meets the brownish orange it has the appearance of an upside-down, multi-coloured flared dancing skirt. It is as if age does not matter — we can still dance and have fun, regardless of age. It is as if the lolly pink entices us to stay young in spirit and to stay dancing.

The name Lacebark is reminiscent of the association of ‘lavender and old lace’ with old ladies!

Your Healing Challenges

  • Menopausal symptoms.
  • Feeling unattractive and sexually undesirable.
  • For depression and ‘empty nest syndrome’.
  • Fear of aging.
  • Feelings of uselessness and having passed the use-by date.
  • For ‘retired husband syndrome’.
  • For hearing difficulties.

Your Healing Outcomes

  • Crone energy – the Wise Woman.
  • Energetically eases menopausal symptoms.
  • Smoothes the transition from Mother to Wise Woman
  • Encourages joy in sexuality, in older women.
  • For the freedom to dance again.
  • For ease in passing on wisdom.
  • Grants the confidence to express one’s creativity.
  • Assists in hearing the inner voice of wisdom.

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